I’m a true believer in Ratio Stacking. I believe that if you simply act out more positive behaviours/actions in your day than negative behaviours/actions, means you’ve won. What have you won exactly? Well that part is up to you.
It is about looking at situations as a whole, as opposed to looking at a segment with a microscope.
An example of this would be, my husband travels for work. When he travels, my routine gets a little messy and I am very routine driven, it also means that the dynamics in the family and household shift a little. I could view this as “my husband travels too much and I can’t stick to a routine, so therefore it is a disaster for me and this is why I can’t achieve XYZ”.
Or I could take a step back, pause for a moment and apply the ratio in a more accurate way. “On average my husband is away 5 nights a month, this is 60 nights per year, so he is home 305 nights per year or away 16.4% and home 83.6%”.
When you look at this situation under a microscope and only focus on the nights away then it is easy to get caught up in the disruption to routine, the workload increase and dynamic shift from a negative viewpoint (by the way there is an upside to this in my opinion, frittata with all the mushrooms for dinner, the bed to myself, a cleaner house and best of all mummy & daughter time, plus I am one of those personalities that needs space and time to myself).
When you view the situation as a broader picture then it is only 16.4% of the time, those ratios are stacked sky high in my favour.
The same could be said for judging your body. How many of you look in the mirror or at a photo and your eye zooms in on what you deem as your negative attributes? Ahhhh I hate my [Insert your negative judgements], so therefore I am [Insert your sweeping negative statement]. Interestingly I once did a ratio of positive things and negative things about myself going head to toe. I was actually shocked by my ratio outcome and at my personal viewpoint about myself. The negatives were, pimples on my chin and jawline, cellulite on the backs of my legs and butt, stretch marks on my hips and thighs and about 10% too much body fat all over. The positive things, were fine hair but a tonne of it, great skin tone on the rest of my face, straight teeth, plus a load of other things about my face, lean and strong upper body, strong athletic physique in general, plus a lot of other great attributes that would take too long to list. When I tallied all of this up, I became aware that I only actually disliked 3-4% of my body, so I could focus on that 3-4% or I could focus on the 96-97% that I liked and found positive about myself.
It all comes down to prospective and ratios! I’m not saying be a positive quote touting hippie (although I am a bit of a hippie, to a degree), I am actually encouraging you to be pragmatic, logical and more sensible when it comes to looking all aspects of your life, your viewpoints and consider how to stack the ratios in your favour.
Thank you for reading!
PS: I have just proof read this and noticed that I haven’t sworn…..Fuck yeah!