Well that was fun! Hmmm No, not really….. My thoughts on the festive season.

Don’t get me wrong I love Christmas Eve, getting prepped and ready for that magical visit from Santa and I thoroughly enjoy the morning of Christmas Day, seeing Amelia’s face and excitement over Christmas!

But I don’t enjoy the pressure I see so many people under. The financial strain, the family expectations, the food, the drinking and the internal need to make that one day so incredible that they quite literally become ill after the event!

Firstly, I use to be in that position when I lived back in New Zealand, the motherland. We would find ourselves separated on Christmas Eve and Day simply to keep family happy, we were miserable and wishing it would all be over, we don’t recall the food, we don’t recall the presents, all we remember is the pressure and exhaustion. Then almost 10 years ago we moved to the UK. The first Christmas rolled around, and we chilled at home, we didn’t go anywhere, we didn’t overeat, we didn’t over extend on gifts and best of all, we didn’t get wound up about any of those things! We recognised this fact and my goodness did we notice the difference and from then on decided to make certain that we would continue this tradition, of chilling the fuck out.

I guess you could say we were liberated and slowly over the years we have started to drop other pressures from this time of year too.

We don’t cook a turkey or spend copious number of hours slaving in the kitchen on Christmas Day. We simply choose a meal (anything we fancy) and enjoy it, without guilt, without restraint.

We use don’t use all the dishes and cookware in the house – one load in the dishwasher like a normal day and that is it. None of this spending hours cleaning up!

We don’t panic buy or try to go to the supermarket during the “witching time”, none of that it needed really. The supermarkets are open longer prior, and the shops are only closed for a day! You will survive without sprouts and the day will not be ruined if you forget something…. Unless you are trying to compete with someone, compare yourself to them or you are still in that place of winding yourself up to a point of bat shit crazy? If that is the case, then enjoy the post-Christmas sickness, because you deserve it!

I guess you could say, we had an “Uh-ha” moment that first Christmas in the UK and recognised we didn’t need the undue stress, so we cut it out of our lives. Which leads me on to the real topic of discussion for this blog post.

STRESS!

It makes you sick. It makes you anxious. It makes you a miserable fucker.

So why do you draw yourself into stress day in and day out, through engaging in activities that cause it, engaging with people who invite it into your life, through setting yourself unrealistic expectations?

Maybe it is time to take a look at what things cause you stress and then take an axe to it and cut it out of your life, or at the very least reduce its dosage.

Maybe 2019 so be less about being perfect and more about being aware. Something to think about, huh?

Kel xo

Commercial Diet Plans: What they are doing to your headspace!

99% of you will have heard of Slimming World, Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, Slim Fast etc…..

In fact, I wouldn’t mind betting that a good number of you have been on one or more of these diets at some point in time.

They all work the same from a structural point of view, less calories in and more calories out (creating a calorie deficit), tracking the dieter with scales weekly, in a group/one to one setting for accountability.

There is nothing special about these diets and the success rate is shockingly bad despite the what their marketing says.  These diets (like all diets) are setup to get you a boost of results initially, the idea is to create a reliance on the programme and on the group mentality.  As motivation wanes, the dieter slips back to old patterned behaviours, which has them returning to the programme/group weekly, wondering why they can’t seem to lose the weight.  

This is where the group accountability and group mentality comes in as the dieter is encouraged to keep returning i.e. keep paying for the privilege of being weighed and surrounding themselves with likeminded dieters.
Now this is a kicker “Like Minded Dieters”, are these the type of people who:
a)    Weigh-in on a Friday morning, then go and binge eat Friday, Saturday and Sunday, then proceed to starve themselves Monday through to Friday morning in order to lose 1lb? 
Or
b)    Are they the type of people who lose a 2 lbs one week, nothing for a few weeks and then pile on 5 lbs only to feel down about it, but bring the rest of the group down with them, all the while claiming to be sticking to the programme but not owning their misgivings, but underneath they are really living with the torment of shame about their misgivings and then self sooth with food the anxiety a weekly weigh-in brings.  It’s a vicious cycle, but that is what these commercial diets and the groups associated with them create.

Your headspace is where you live 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.  Now you would not allow someone or a group to enter your house where you live and create havoc in your home once a week?  So why would you allow that havoc into your headspace every week and bloody well pay for it too!

The amount of messed up people I meet on a daily basis from these commercial diet programmes is insane.  We have to spend a long time working through, what is perceived as their “naughty foods”, “free foods” and “limited foods”.  These programmes label foods as “free” – eat all you want and as “syns” – I mean what the hell is that implying…… If you know what the label “Catholic School Girl” means, then you will understand what telling people certain things are sinful, will eventually result in.

On the subject of “free foods”, look at who sponsors these Diet Programmes and you will start to understand why a particular brand of yogurt or pasta snack is considered free or virtually free….. it has nothing to do with healthy choices but everything to do with the brand sponsoring the diet plan.

I hear almost daily “oh isn’t that *insert food* bad for you”?
My clients, friends and family will tell you I have a very unflattering response to that, my face scrunches up, one nostril flares (the left) and a very sarcastic “WHY?” flies out my mouth.  

I really feel strongly that we need to challenge the trend of demonising foods.  We need to challenge the concept of paying to be weighed weekly and especially protect our headspace from these destructive and grossly inaccurate weight-loss programmes.

Thank you for reading.

Kel xo